Recently I was speaking with a former client. It had been a number of years since I saw them last. But, I remembered their story.

When they first came to me they were distressed because the spark had gone out in their love life. At the time, they had three children, all less than 6 years old and 2 big dogs. She was working part-time. He was very busy climbing the corporate ladder.

As we worked together, it quickly became obvious why their love life had suffered. There was no time and precious little energy for love’n.

When they realized what they’d done, they began to make some choices and changes to open up the adult time they need to fuel their relationship, their family and their lives. Very quickly they were glowing again.

Now, their lives were real different: the kids had all left home, the dogs had died, and it was just the two of them.

While they still had their “adult time,” it wasn’t what they were hoping for. They had thought when all the other responsibilities were over, they could go back to love’n like they had before family and job responsibilities intervened.

Come to find out, they were still stuck in their “if this is Saturday night” we need to have “our time.”

As we talked, it didn’t take long to come up with ways of getting more of what they really wanted, more intimacy, more fun, and more love’n more often.

They had changed all the circumstances of their lives and had missed the one they valued most: loving each other and sharing that love.

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