Don’t Wait to Get In Bed

With all the hoopla about pills, ED, FSAD, and where and when it comes from, what causes it, what to do about it., we’ve lost track of one of the biggest issues with couples today…one that is more of a problem for more couples than anyone would imagine.

I’m talking about drive…being interested in sex, getting turned on, feeling horny.

Doesn’t matter what you call it, it is a very serious problem for many couples, and even for those men and women who would like to be coupled again.

The unfortunate truth about drive…the less you have sexual relations, the less you want them. Many people who have no partner find they’ve gotten out of the grove, and somehow lost their loven’ feelings, without even realizing they were gone.

Often couples will find one of them will have much more drive than the other. Typically this leads to a whole raft of problems with the one with less drive feeling put upon each time the other wants relations, and the one with more drive feeling deprived.

The best way to build drive and interest your less than driven partner? Start outside the bedroom. Don’t wait until you get into bed to be more loving. A little gesture, a quick hug, a peck on the cheek, even a loving look can be a good start to kindling loving feelings.

Just don’t get into the “she should do it without any overtures from me” trap. What you’re saying is “I want her to be who I want her to be, rather than what she is.” Ultimatums and demands for change seldom if ever work.

Invite, don’t demand. As my grammy used to say, you get a whole lot more bees with honey than vinegar.

If this is an issue with you and your relationship, keep coming back to SatisfyingSeniorSex. You’ll be hearing more here about drive…and what you can do to keep both of you happy, healthy and fulfilled.